Last Saturday I was privileged to speak to a group of 15 women on the importance self-care to the woman on a mission. When life gets busy, self-care is usually the first thing we women throw out the window. I felt that the topic was an appropriate one to share with this dynamic group of women, some managers, business owners, health practitioners, community advocates, coaches, educators, and retirees. These women give so much of themselves to others that they need to be reminded that they too are deserving of some consistent care.
Since the start of the year, I have been intentional about taking better care of myself. I’m deliberate in tending my temple. I’m realizing more and more that self-care is not about indulgence, rather it is being aware of our worthiness and then choosing to operate in that worth. Once we understand that we are worthy and deserving of a whole relationship with ourselves, we make the effort to tend to all facets of our temple – mind, body, spirit, emotions.
The thing I have learned about self-care is that it is a process of negotiation. I’m going to have to negotiate between the ideal and my reality. Maybe I can’t run five days a week or do all the things self-care advocates recommend. But I can do as much as I can, as often as possible. And that is where I negotiate. Negotiating means that I’m invested and committed to taking the best care of myself given my time, situation, reality, and resources.
Ladies, you are guaranteed one companion to journey within this life. You. People will come and go on this journey, the one person who will always be on that journey is you. Please care for yourself.