How’s Your Heart
In many Muslim cultures, when you want to ask someone how they’re doing, you ask in Arabic, Kayf haal-ik? or, in Persian, Haal-e shomaa chetoreh? How is your haal?
The haal is the transient state of the heart. In essence, you’re asking, “how is your heart doing at this very moment, at this breath?” When I first read about this, I felt my heart quicken and my breath constrict. It’s how my body reacts when I’m enlightened or awe-struck. This one article has changed my life and is the catalyst for this free e-course.
How is your heart?
Sadly, this is a question we don’t ask. We ask ‘how are you’ as a matter of habit, sometimes without caring to know. At times we don’t even wait for a reply. So the response we get is in kind.
I’m learning that to ask about the heart is to create space for another, to allow them to be vulnerable, and to be open-hearted in the midst of their vulnerability. Many of us aren’t capable of this. But this can change. It needs to. In a society where we are struggling under the weight of busyness and projecting the image that we have it all together, our heart gets bruised and cries out for loving attention.